In a fast zone internet world, where everyone is in a hurry to make it and break it (records ie) we women ( I do!!) find that the basics of chivalry are becoming extinct! So I thought I'd help with a reminder to all the men out there who need some gentle reminders to be more gentlemenlike??!!
Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.
Men (in training) should try to follow these 'gentle' 'rules' when in the presence of a lady.
Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Do Not Run Ahead
If you are escorting a lady someplace, 'try' not to run ahead, a womans steps are tiny-ier (even if she's taller). To run miles ahead while she's frantically trying to keep pace might sound funny, but is not. Its a put off.
Give her your arm
Infact , quite the opposite, when escorting her to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.
Help with her seat
If she is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with your lady seated of course.
Give up your seat
If she arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention
Always stand when she enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Look at your 'interlocutor'
Please don't look around or at your mobile or the lady at the table next to you, your attention should always be focused on the person you are talking with , especially if its the lady next to you. Always look at her when listening as well as when you are in control of the conversation. Again, it's a question of respect and control.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask your lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. Your Lady will appreciate such a rarity , good manners and savoir-faire .
Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.
Men (in training) should try to follow these 'gentle' 'rules' when in the presence of a lady.
Always open doors
This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Put on her coat
Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.
Do Not Run Ahead
If you are escorting a lady someplace, 'try' not to run ahead, a womans steps are tiny-ier (even if she's taller). To run miles ahead while she's frantically trying to keep pace might sound funny, but is not. Its a put off.
Give her your arm
Infact , quite the opposite, when escorting her to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.
Help with her seat
If she is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with your lady seated of course.
Give up your seat
If she arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.
Stand at attention
Always stand when she enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.
Look at your 'interlocutor'
Please don't look around or at your mobile or the lady at the table next to you, your attention should always be focused on the person you are talking with , especially if its the lady next to you. Always look at her when listening as well as when you are in control of the conversation. Again, it's a question of respect and control.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask your lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. Your Lady will appreciate such a rarity , good manners and savoir-faire .
